Inspired from (In)Courage
Reflection Questions for 2009
1. What was the single best thing that happened this past year? our healthy uncomplicated pregnancy and home water birth of Miss. L
2. What was the single most challenging thing that happened? learning how to continue serving my family while nauseous and pregnant and learning to be a mom of two (still learning this)
3. What was an unexpected joy this past year? God provision financially in a time of need when we saw no.way.possible. that it would work out! And also of course the addition of a sweet baby girl!
4. What was an unexpected obstacle? hmm… I’m not sure… gonna cop out of this one
5. Pick three words to describe 2009. difficult. long. baby-blessed!
6. Pick three words your spouse would use to describe your 2009 (don’t ask them; guess based on how you think your spouse sees you). stressed. busy. long.
7. Pick three words your spouse would use to describe their 2009 (again, without asking). baby. band. blessed!
8. What were the best books you read this year? besides the Bible I think my favorite fun book was Pride and Prejudice. I also read a load of pregnancy and baby books… of those I think it would be a toss up between Baby Catcher and Secrets of the Baby Whisper
9. With whom were your most valuable relationships? My husband and are reading Making Room for Life by Randy Frazee together. (thanks Granola Mom) We haven’t gotten far but it really has turned a light on for us regarding relationships! We were instructed to draw a bubble diagram (sometimes Frazee refers to it as a “personal galaxy” for all the relationships we are (trying) to manage. It was kind of scary. I’m involved in many things that require maintaining many relationships. But it was fairly easy to see which ones were the most important and also which ones are the easiest to maintain. Even though it was overwhelming it was exciting to see and learn how better to have quality relationships. They suggest that after drawing our “personal galaxy” we might consider renaming it “Lost in Space” or “Everybody knows my name but nobody knows me” or “Planet Hopper” I don’t want any of these to be true. 2010 might mean some changes but all for the good!! I do not want to live in crowded loneliness.
10. What was your biggest personal change from January to December of this past year? my pregnancy didn’t last Jan thru Dec but it was probably my biggest challenge. I didn’t have any problems or complications with the pregnancy but I. was. miserable. I tried to hide it as much as I could but I know those closest to me probably saw right through this act. It’s very difficult for me to endure the pregnancy months and I wish it wasn’t so. I physically grow with the pregnancy but God also grows me through the very trying months.
11. In what way(s) did you grow emotionally? I feel like I’m still growing up. Sure I’ve graduated HS and college, got married, bought a house and had two children and you’d think that would mean I’m “grown up”… but I don’t feel that way… yet. Will I ever?? This year with that added blessing of a second child I was just plain emotional. But I think this year I ended with being less-emotional than when I started it. Does that count as growing emotionally?
12. In what way(s) did you grow spiritually? Our home fellowship completed two studies one on parenting and one on the book of Ruth. I definitely feel like I grew spiritually as a parent. Now that Mr. A is two my husband and I needed to get on the same page with disciplining and disciplining him (and Miss L as she grows).The Bible and Parenting is a Ministry were both excellent guides for us in this. I had done an inductive study of Ruth previously and was SO excited to study the book again. I remember learning so much the first time and I think I learned equally as much if not more the second time! The book may be titled “Ruth” but it’s really about Jesus! Did you know that? It’s only four chapters, but they are powerful!
13. In what way(s) did you grow physically? Physically I grew a baby! HAHA! If you think about it nine months is INSANELY FAST to grow an 8lbs+ baby! (even if it felt…f.o.r.e.v.e.r) And physically I’m almost back down to where I was before. With the help of P90X I hope to be there soon! 10 more wks to go!
14. In what way(s) did you grow in your relationships with others? I’m a fairly private person and I think I grew with some ppl by opening up a bit more. It’s still a struggle for me but I’m learning and trying.
15. What was the most enjoyable area of managing your home? Hmm… what a good and interesting question! And actually the answer(s) I’ve come up with I don’t think I would have thought were my answers (if that makes any sense?) In the cleaning area of managing my home I’d say it is my cloth diapers…weird I know but it’s SO easy to do, requires so little actual “folding” and sorting and putting away it’s so fast to do. And not to mention the loads (pun intended) of money it’s saved us from not buying disposable. In the rest of managing my home I think I like ordering/buying our groceries on line through a local co-op and having our square foot garden. Maybe overall if I had the time my favorite first home management thing to do would be to organized! something. everything! ALL THINGS!
16. What was your most challenging area of home management? Hmm… equally good and interesting question! I will be honest and admit it’s very challenging for me to stay on top of general pick-up and planning meals consistently. I go through spurts of good meal planning then times where n.o.t.h.i.n.g is planned out meal wise. (I have a goal to change this next year. I just have find something that works best for us. Ordering from a co-op makes it requires a lot more planning in general, let alone scheduling meals… at least this is a struggle for me… but you know with how much I love to organized you’ think I’d have this down pat… but it’s the whole time to plan part I don’t have much of…)
17. What was your single biggest time waster in your life this past year? Wow these are really interesting questions! hmmm…….. probably reading more blog posts than necessary… my google reader has helped but I still read more than I should.
18. What was the best way you used your time this past year? I think I’d say reading to and teaching Mr. A. We got him a new Bible that connects each story to Jesus for Easter. While I was pregnant we read a lot! The Bible talks about how Moses’ and Samuel’s mothers taught them SO much before the age of three or so when they moved to be in someone elses care. I pray have the opportunity to teach my children well beyond three but there is no reason to wait to start teaching them about everything.
19. What was the biggest thing you learned this past year? to not be so micro-focused… to remember the big picture… to realize what really matters.
20. Create a phrase or statement that describes 2009 for you. hmm…haha… one of the first things I thought of was… hadababyitsaGIRL! maybe not a serious deep answers but that was my big thing for 09.